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DOES SOMETHING STINK? OH THATS JUST PEPE LE PEW



DATE 4: SO CLOSE BUT SO FAR

I received a request to communicate from an attractive man. A very attractive man at that. All the girls from ZUMBA were smitten at his cuteness muscles and seemingly qualifying credentials. An officer in the Navy, traveled all over the world, worked at Boeing, owns his own house, has a BMW and big muscles. Did I already say that? haha.

From the first e-mail he proclaimed his thoughts on how beautiful I was...very flattering and hey a girl could get used to this. I finally responded to him and we decided to meet up. There were a few things that made me raise an eyebrow such as he thought we could meet at a mall and then go together to find a place to eat. Ummm how about we just meet at a restaurant...I don't know you Mr. Miltary man.

So we decide...taphouse in Bellevue. I arrive after work and to my surprise he was really outgoing, attractive and we seemed to hit it off well...a connection I wasn't so sure.....but I was having a good time. Conversation went well, and he didn't seem strange at all! He looked just like his pictures, and although not 6 foot..he was actually honest about his height so I was ok with it! Our conversation was enjoyable but we only had about an hour and 15 minutes due to previous plans. We seemed to have quite a bit in common and he told me to eat with my fingers when I was attempting with no success to eat my chicken wing with a fork. haha. I have been given a hard time about eating with my fingers before haha, so I was very hesitant...like a kid jumping back in water for the first time but when I finally jumped...I was all over that wing. Apparently it worked...he paid, and texted me on my way home telling me how beautiful I was and that he couldn't wait to spend time with me....I have to admit...I panicked! Will this be the end of my blog alreadyyyyyyyyy????????

I felt a little skip in my step but wanted to take things slow...I have my career that is so fast paced....my zumba...my family and I am not trying to rush in to anything. Not so much for him. From that moment I received at least 1 call a day....a call and a text before bed with messages stating he wanted to recap my day and know how I was. (Sweet, but a little creepy...I just met you) Oh well....maybe he is just extra sweet. I answered every other day but kept the calls short. He began calling, texting and emailing multiple times a day...For a girl who loves to be loved...this was even a little much for me and honestly turned me off!! BUT I figured since we had such a great conversation I would give it another chance. He said we should go to a movie...(something I also thought was odd) If you don't know me that well, wouldn't you want to go to dinner, coffee or ice cream and TALK..get to know ME...not sit in a dark theatre where you cant talk!?!?!?!I told him this also. haha We made plans to meet on a Thursday, after he told me it felt like it had been forever since he's seen me....? Anyways, he had a meeting that went till 7 but we would meet at 7:15. I worked late to accommodate this...7 rolls around, no response, 7:15 rolls around I start driving with the attempt of driving past our meeting place. I drive past at 7:30 and at 7:45 my drive on the side roads completed and I got home...at 8:15 and hour and 15 minutes later I get a call from him. Of course I didn't answer and he left a message saying he hoped I was still at work because he NEEDED to take me out. Who would sit at work waiting an hour after you were supposed to meet with no text or call?!

HE then texted....THEN called again and left me a message telling me how desperately sorry he was and that he HAD to take me out and talk everything out...uhhh dude I met you once we don't need to talk anything out...its fine you were busy...I was busy now and we will meet another time. The message was about 2 minutes long begging me to let him come to where I was so he can fix it.

I then wrote him back saying it was fine, but that I wasn't going to wait around so I made other plans. I told him I was with friends so I couldn't talk. 30 second later I received TWO texts, an email and another call...even after I said I was with friends! THEN after I told him it was ok, I received the following email:


I am out, and it's 8:19, I feel so bad... Words can not describe how disappointed I am in myself for not leaving the career seminar earlier. 10min late, turned into 30min, and then an 1hr... I'm not going to ask for you to understand. I know my inaction was the wrong thing to do. You are very important to me, and asking forgiveness is only appropriate if the person sincerely means to prevent the action from reoccurring. Please forgive me. I believe people make mistakes, but will you give me a second chance to make this up to you? I don't have any expectation that you will, but it would be very generous of a beautiful lady such as you to give me the benefit of the doubt by proving this to be an honest mistake and not a character flaw. I know better, but even gentlemen make mistakes. I will get less sleep tonight if you don't call me to either tell me off, or set my mind at ease. Or, you can read this and torture me by not responding.

If I wasn't sincere do you really think I would spill my guts and poor my thoughts out like this. I simply care about getting to know you. I have no idea how bad you feel, but all I can do is prepare for the worst, and that would be you never talking to me again.

So before I get emotional. I just want to say, if you are open minded, and willing to speak to me, you may do so at ANY time night or day. I mean that whole heartedly.


OK HELLO PSYCHO....1. We met one time...ONE TIME!!! 2. I'm VERY important to you? How? You barely know me? 3. Are you trying to guilt me in to calling you?? 4. BEFORE I GET EMOTIONAL?? Why would you get emotional and second sounds like you already did.

Mind you I received this e-mail after I told him it was fine and I was busy, while I was reading this I received another text and another call asking me to call him because he NEEDED to talk to me to straighten everything out and find a solution......CRAZYYYYYYYYYY! While I was reading this I also received the following email:

This is a big deal to me. It only takes once to make a bad impression! After reflecting on my shortcomings. The corrective action on my part comes in 3 parts:

1) To deter future potential occurrence I pledge we establish a drop dead or cut-off time for future dates 10-15min

2) Establish a plan B if not able to make contact or acknowledge delay approval.

3) Dissallow me to schedule future Dinner(s) so darn close to the end time of a meeting! (I must have been taking crazy pills!)

*This is my plan and your feedback is openly welcome, positive or negative*

THIS GUY IS CRAZY...he has met me for less than an hour and a half and was acting like we were boyfriend and girlfriend. He needed to talk everyday to me and then all this. My red flags were going off left and right!!! Of course it was highly entertaining my parents allowing them to listen to all the incoming voicemails and e-mails...Mom was thinking awww he is just sweet but Dad was saying runnnnnnnnnnnn girl! Men don't act that way...

I felt ultra smothered...which is quite an accomplishment and as though he already thought I was his girlfriend. Don't judge a book by his cover. I told him bluntly I felt smothered and so much emotion especially in that email turned me off and that I would not be responding to him anymore, haven't heard from him since. Talk about night and day but Dear LORD! I would have died from suffocation from this man...I need my space!

Needless to say...I am dater-exhausted....I'm on strike for a bit, but should I recover from this ridiculousness...You will all be the first to know!

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